Throw out the non-essential numbers in your life: age, weight & height. Be thankful and be proud about it.

 

Keep only the cheerful friends around. The “grouches” pull u down. If you really need a grouch, there are probably a few dozen of your relatives to do the work.

 

Keep on learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, interior design, gardening …whatever. Just never let the brain idle.

 

Laugh often, long & loud… Laugh until you gasp for breath. Laugh so much that you can be tracked in the store by your “distinctive laughter”.

 

The tears happen… Endure, grieve, cry hard enough, & move on. The only person who is with us in our entire life is … ourselves.

 

Surround yourself w/ what you love, whether it is family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies … whatever. Your home is your refuge.

 

Cherish your health. If it is good – preserve it. If it is unstable – improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve – get help.

 

Don’t take guilt trips. Go to the mall, the next county, a foreign country… but not guilt.

 

Tell the people u love, that you love them at every opportunity.

 

REMEMBER, Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

 

I have learned that……

 

Your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.

 

You cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

 

No matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.

 

It is hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings and standing up for what you believe.

 

It takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

 

Praying hard is essential,, pray with all of your heart and believe… Your faith will see you through the harshness of life.

 

Remember, a Faith not worth dying for, is not a faith worth living for.

MOM, YOU’RE THE BEST!

Mom has always been the best, her painstaking world revolves around us her children.. we are who we are now because of her.. Like Dad who pass away when we were young, we love her so much. Thanks to a friend, this story which I come across during mother’s day made me cry… hope you’ll like it:

After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take my MOM out to dinner. “I love you, but I know your MOM loves you & would love to spend some time with you!”

My MOTHER has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of work & three children made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night, I called to invite her to go out for dinner. “What’s wrong, are you well?” she asked…I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you, just the two of us,” I said. She thought about it for a moment, “I would like that very much.”

Friday after work, I drove over to pick her up. She waited at the door with coat on. She had curled her hair & wearing the dress she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled as radiant as an angel. “I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, they can’t wait to hear about our meeting.”

My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. I had to read the menu since her eyes could only read large print. I lifted my eyes & saw Mom staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. “It was I who used to read the menu when you were small,” she said. Now it’s time that You relax & let me return the favor, I responded.

We had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. As we arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if u let me invite u!”

A few days later, my MOM died of a massive heart attack. Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from where we dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for 2 plates one for you & the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve.

Dear readers I want to share this story about how much God longs for our attention. I hope you get inspired much as I do –

A young & successful executive was traveling a bit too fast down a neighborhood street in his new Jaguar. As he passed, a brick smashed into the car’s side door. He slammed on the brakes and went to the spot where the brick had been thrown.

Angry, he grabbed the nearest kid & pushed him up against a parked car shouting, “What the hell was that all about? Who are u? Just what the hell are u doing? That’s a new car & that brick u threw is going to cost a lot of money. Why did u do it?”

The young boy was apologetic. “Please, please, I’m sorry but I didn’t know what else to do. I threw the brick because no one else would stop!” With tears dripping down his face, he pointed to a spot around a parked car. “He is my brother. He rolled off the curb & fell out of his wheelchair. I can’t lift him up. Would u please help me get him back into his wheelchair? He’s hurt & too heavy for me.”

Moved beyond words, he tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. He hurriedly lifted the handicapped boy back into the wheelchair. Then, he took out his fancy handkerchief & dabbed at the fresh scrapes & cuts. A quick look him seemed everything will be okay. “Thank you. May God bless you!” said the grateful child. Too shook up for words, he simply watched the boy push the wheelchair-bound brother down the sidewalk toward their home.

It was a long, slow walk back to the car. The damage was very noticeable but he never bothered to repair the dented side door to remind him of this message:

“Don’t go thru life so fast that someone has to throw a brick to get your attention! God whispers in our souls & speaks to our hearts. Sometimes when we don’t listen, some brick of trials may come our way to remember that there is God!”

HOW TO PRAY:   THE FIVE FINGER WAY

1. Your thumb is nearest you. So begin your prayers by praying for those closest to you. They are the easiest to remember. To pray for our loved ones is, as C. S. Lewis once said, a “sweet duty.”

2. The next finger is the pointing finger. Pray for those who teach, instruct and heal. This includes teachers, doctors, and ministers. They need support and wisdom in pointing others in the right direction. Keep them in your prayers.

3. The next finger is the tallest finger. It reminds us of our leaders. Pray for the president, leaders in business and industry, and administrators. These people shape our nation and guide public opinion. They need God’s guidance.

4. The fourth finger is our ring finger. Surprising to many is the fact that this is our weakest finger, as any piano teacher will testify. It should remind us to pray for those who are weak, in trouble or in pain. They need your prayers day and night. You cannot pray too much for them.

5. And lastly comes our little finger – the smallest finger of all which is where we should place ourselves in relation to God and others. As the Bible says, “The least shall be the greatest among you.” Your pinkie should remind you to pray for yourself. By the time you have prayed for the other four groups, your own needs will be put into proper perspective and you will be able to pray for yourself more effectively.

“Let me explain the problem science has with Jesus Christ.” The atheist professor of philosophy pauses before his class and then asks one of his new students to stand.

“You’re a Christian, aren’t you, son?”

“Yes sir,” the student says.

“So you believe in God?”

“Absolutely!”

“Is God good?”

“Sure! God’s good.”

“Is God all-powerful? Can God do anything?”

“Yes.”

“Are you good or evil?”

“The Bible says I’m evil.”

The professor grins knowingly. “Aha! The Bible!” He considers for a moment.

“Here’s one for you. Let’s say there’s a sick person over here and you can cure him. You can do it. Would you help him? Would you try?”

“Yes sir, I would.”

“So you’re good…!”

“I wouldn’t say that.”

“But why not say that? You’d help a sick and maimed person if you could. Most of us would if we could. But God doesn’t.”

The student does not answer, so the professor continues. “He doesn’t, does he? My brother was a Christian who died of cancer, even though he prayed to Jesus to heal him How is this Jesus good? Hmmm? Can you answer that one?”

The student remains silent.

“No, you can’t, can you?” the professor says. He takes a sip of water from a glass on his desk to give the student time to relax.

“Let’s start again, young fella Is God good?”

“Err…yes,” the student says.

“Is Satan good?”

The student doesn’t hesitate on this one. “No.”

“Then where does Satan come from?”

The student : “From…God. .”

“That’s right. God made Satan, didn’t he? Tell me, son. Is there evil in this world?”

“Yes, sir.”

“Evil’s everywhere, isn’t it? And God did make everything, correct?”

“Yes.”

“So who created evil?” The professor continued, “If God created everything, then God created evil, since evil exists, and according to the principle that our works define who we are, then God is evil.”

Without allowing the student to answer, the professor continues: “Is there sickness? Immorality? Hatred? Ugliness? All these terrible things, do they exist in this world?”

The student: “Yes.”

“So who created them?”

The student does not answer again, so the professor repeats his question. “Who created them? There is still no answer. Suddenly the lecturer breaks away to pace in front of the classroom. The class is mesmerized.

“Tell me,” he continues onto another student. “Do you believe in Jesus Christ, son?”

The student’s voice is confident: “Yes, professor, I do.”

The old man stops pacing. “Science says you have five senses you use to identify and observe the world around you. Have you ever seen Jesus?”

“No sir. I’ve never seen Him”

“Then tell us if you’ve ever heard your Jesus?”

“No, sir, I have not.”

“Have you ever actually felt your Jesus, tasted your Jesus or smelled your Jesus? Have you ever had any sensory perception of Jesus Christ, or God for that matter?”

“No, sir, I’m afraid I haven’t.”

“Yet you still believe in him?”

“Yes.”

“According to the rules of empirical, testable, demonstrable protocol, science says your God doesn’t exist. What do you say to that, son?”

“Nothing,” the student replies. “I only have my faith.”

“Yes, faith,” the professor repeats. “And that is the problem science has with God. There is no evidence, only faith.”

The student stands quietly for a moment, before asking a question of his own. “Professor, is there such thing as heat?”

“Yes,” the professor replies. “There’s heat.”

“And is there such a thing as cold?”

“Yes, son, there’s cold too.”

“No sir, there isn’t.”

The professor turns to face the student, obviously interested. The room suddenly becomes very quiet. The student begins to explain.

“You can have lots of heat, even more heat, super-heat, mega-heat, unlimited heat, white heat, a little heat or no heat, but we don’t have anything called ‘cold’. We can hit up to 458 degrees below zero, which is no heat, but we can’t go any further after that. There is no such thing as cold; otherwise we would be able to go colder than the lowest -458 degrees. Every body or object is susceptible to study when it has or transmits energy, and heat is what makes a body or matter have or transmit energy. Absolute zero (-458 F) is the total absence of heat. You see, sir, cold is only a word we use to describe the absence of heat. We cannot measure cold. Heat we can measure in thermal units because heat is energy. Cold is not the opposite of heat, sir, just the absence of it.”

Silence across the room. A pen drops somewhere in the classroom, sounding like a hammer.

“What about darkness, professor. Is there such a thing as darkness?”

“Yes,” the professor replies without hesitation. “What is night if it isn’t darkness?”

“You’re wrong again, sir. Darkness is not something; it is the absence of something. You can have low light, normal light, bright light, flashing light, but if you have no light constantly you have nothing and it’s called darkness, isn’t it? That’s the meaning we use to define the word. In reality, darkness isn’t. If it were, you would be able to make darkness darker, wouldn’t you?”

The professor begins to smile at the student in front of him. This will be a good semester. “So what point are you making, young man?”

“Yes Professor. My point is, your philosophical premise is flawed to start with, and so your conclusion must also be flawed.”

The professor’s face cannot hide his surprise this time. “Flawed? Can you explain how?”

“You are working on the premise of duality,” the student explains. “You argue that there is life and then there’s death; a good God and a bad God. You are viewing the concept of God as something finite, something we can measure. Sir, science can’t even explain a thought. It uses electricity and magnetism, but has never seen, much less fully understood either one. To view death as the opposite of life is to be ignorant of the fact that death cannot exist as a substantive thing. Death is not the opposite of life, just the absence of it.”

“Now tell me, professor. Do you teach your students that they evolved from a monkey?”

“If you are referring to the natural evolutionary process, young man, yes, of course I do”

“Have you ever observed evolution with your own eyes, sir?”

The professor begins to shake his head, still smiling, as he realizes where the argument is going. A very good semester, indeed.

“Since no one has ever observed the process of evolution at work and cannot even prove that this process is an on-going endeavour, are you not teaching your opinion, sir? Are you now not a scientist, but a preacher?”

The class is in uproar. The student remains silent until the commotion has subsided.

“To continue the point you were making earlier to the other student, let me give you an example of what I mean.”

The student looks around the room. “Is there anyone in the class who has ever seen the professor’s brain?” The class breaks out into laughter.

“Is there anyone here who has ever heard the professor’s brain, felt the professor’s brain, touched or smelled the professor’s brain? No one appears to have done so. So, according to the established rules of empirical, stable, demonstrable protocol, science says that you have no brain, with all due respect, sir. So if science says you have no brain, how can we trust your lectures, sir?”

Now the room is silent. The professor just stares at the student, his face unreadable.

Finally, after what seems an eternity, the old man answers. “I guess you’ll have to take them on faith.”

“Now, you accept that there is faith, and, in fact, faith exists with life,” the student continues. “Now, sir, is there such a thing as evil?”

Now uncertain, the professor responds, “Of course, there is. We see it everyday. It is in the daily example of man’s inhumanity to man. It is in the multitude of crime and violence everywhere in the world. These manifestations are nothing else but evil.”

To this the student replied, “Evil does not exist sir, or at least it does not exist unto itself. Evil is simply the absence of God. It is just like darkness and cold, a word that man has created to describe the absence of God.

God did not create evil. Evil is the result of what happens when man does not have God’s love present in his heart. It’s like the cold that comes when there is no heat or the darkness that comes when there is no light.”

The professor sat down.

Dear readers, I’d like to share this wonderful story that was shared by a friend of mine …

Sadly for me, I was the gusty wind that failed to snatch the leaf from the tree…. I still love you leaf,, I wish leaf and tree the best of everything!!!

I hope you find time to read this…..

Tree

People call me “Tree”.

I had dated 5 girls when I was in Pre-U. Although there is one girl who I love a lot but never dared to go after. She didn’t have a pretty face, good figure or an outstanding charm. She was just a very ordinary girl. I liked her. I really liked her. I liked her innocence, her frankness, her intelligence and her fragility. Reason for not going after her was that I felt somebody so ordinary like her was not a good match for me. I was also afraid that after we were together all the feelings would vanish. I was also afraid other’s gossip would hurt her. I felt that if she were my girl, she’d be mine ultimately & I didn’t have to give up everything just for her. The last reason, made her accompany me for 3 years she watched me chase other girls, and I have made her heart cry for 3 years.

She was a good actor, and me a demanding director.

When I kissed my second girlfriend, she bumped into us. She was embarrassed but smiled & said, “Go on!” before running off. The next day, her eyes were swollen like a walnut. I did not want to know what caused her to cry.

Later that day, I returned from soccer training to get something & watched her cry in the classroom for an hour or so. My fourth girlfriend did not like her. There was once when both of them quarreled. I know that based on her character she is not the type that will start the quarrel however, I still sided my girlfriend. I shouted at her & ignored her feelings and walked off with my girlfriend. The next day, she was laughing & joking with me like nothing happened. I know she was hurt but she did not know deep down inside I was hurt too.

When I broke up with my fifth girlfriend, I asked her out. Later that day, I told her I had something to tell her. I told her about my break up. Coincidentally, she has something to tell me too, about her getting together. I knew who the person was. His pursuit for her had been the talk of the school. I did not show her my heartache, just smiles & best wishes.

Once I reached home, I could not breathe. Tears rolled & I broke down. How many times have I seen her cry for the man who did not acknowledge her presence? During graduation, I read a SMS in my phone. It said, “Leaf’s departure is because of Wind’s pursuit. Or because Tree didn’t ask her to stay”

 

Leaf

People call me “Leaf”.

During the 3 years of Pre-U, I was on very close terms with a guy as buddy kind. However, when he had his first girlfriend, I learnt a feeling I never should have learnt – Jealousy… sourness to the extreme limit. They were only together for 2 months. When they broke up, I hid my happiness. But after a month, he got together with another girl. I liked him & I knew he liked me. But why won’t he pursue me? Since he loves me why he didn’t he make the first move? Whenever he had a new girlfriend, my heart would hurt.

After some time, I began to suspect that this was one-sided love. If he didn’t like me, why did he treat me so well? It’s beyond what you will normally do for a friend. I know his likes, his habits. But his feelings towards me I can never figure out. You can’t expect me a girl, to ask him. Despite that, I still wanted to be by his side. Care for him, accompany him, and love him. Hoping that one day, he will come to love me.

Because of this, I waited for him. Sometimes, I wondered if I should continue waiting. The pain, the dilemma accompanied me for 3 years. At the end of my 3rd year, a junior pursues me. Every day he pursues me. He’s like the cool & gentle wind, trying to blow off a leaf from a tree. In the end, I realized that I wanted to give this wind a small footing in my heart. I know the wind will bring the leaf to a better land.

Finally, leaf left the tree, but the tree only smiled & didn’t ask me to stay. Leaf’s departure is because of Wind’s pursuit. Or cause Tree didn’t ask her to stay.

 

Wind

People call me “Wind”.

Because I like a girl called leaf. Because she’s so dependent on tree, so I have to be a gust wind. The kind of wind that will blow her away. When I first met her, it was 1 month after I was transferred to this new school. I saw a petite person looking at my seniors & me playing soccer. During ECA time, she will always be sitting there. Be it alone or with her friends, looking at him. When he talks with girls, there’s jealousy in her eyes. When he looked at her, there’s a smile in her eyes. Looking at her became my habit. Just like, she likes to look at him.

One day, she didn’t appear. I felt something missing. I can’t explain the feeling except it’s a kind of uneasiness. The senior was also not there as well. I went to their classroom, hid outside and saw my senior scolding her. Tears were in her eyes while he left.

The next day, I saw her at her usual place, looking at him. I walked over and smiled to her. Took out a note & gave to her. She was surprised. She looked at me, smiled & accepts the note. The next day, she appeared & passes me a note and left. It read, “Leaf’s heart is too heavy and wind couldn’t blow her away.” “It’s not that leaf heart is too heavy. It’s because leaf never want to leave tree.” I replied her note with this statement and slowly she started to talk to me & accept my presents & phone calls I know that the person she loves is not me. But I have this perseverance that one day I will make her like me.

Within 4 months, I have declared my love for her no less than 20 times. Every time, she will divert away from the topic. But I never give up. If I decide I want her to be mine, I will definitely use all means to win her over. I can’t remember how many times I have declared my love to her. Although I know, she will try to divert but I still bear a small ray of hope.

I’m hoping that she would agree to be my girlfriend. I didn’t hear any reply from her over the phone. I asked, “What are you doing? How come you didn’t want to reply?” She said, “I’m nodding my head”. “Ah?” I couldn’t believe my ears. “I’m nodding my head” She replied loudly.

I hanged up the phone, quickly changed and took a taxi and rush to her place & press her doorbell. During the moment when she opens the door, I hugged her tightly.

Leaf departure is because of Wind pursuit. Or because Tree didn’t ask her to stay…

Moral Lesson:

In love, we win very rarely, but when love is true, even if you lose, you still win just for having the tingle of loving someone more than you love yourself. There comes a time when we stop loving someone, not because that person has stopped loving us but because we have found out that, they’d be happier if we let go…. Why do we close our eyes when we sleep? When we cry? When we imagine? When we kiss? This is because THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THINGS IN THE WORLD ARE UNSEEN.

 

There are things that we never want to let go of, people we never want to leave behind, but keep in mind that letting go isn’t the end of the world. It’s the beginning of a new life. Happiness lies for those who cry those who hurt, those who have searched and those who have tried. For only they can appreciate the importance of the people who have touched our lives.

 

What is A great love? It’s when you shed tears and still you care for them, it’s when they ignore you and still you long for them. It’s when they begin to love another and yet you smile and say, “I’m happy for you.” If love fails, set yourself free, let your heart spread its wings and fly again. Remember you may find love and lose it, but when love dies, you never have to die with it.

 

The strongest people are not those who always win but those who stand back up when they fall. Somehow, along the course of life, you learn about yourself and realize that there should never be regrets, only a lifelong appreciation of the choices you’ve made. Loving is not how you forget but how you forgive, not how you listen but how you understand, not what you see but how you feel, and not how you let go but how you hold on.

 

It’s more dangerous to weep inwardly rather than outwardly. Outward tears can be wiped away while secret tears scar forever…

 

It’s best to wait for the one you want than settle for one that’s available. It’s best to wait for the right one because life is too short to waste on just one person…. who is not really meant for you.

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1.   You must Eat. Eat alkaline foods such as vegetables and fruits in ad libitum quantity. It decreases carbon in our body which makes it more depressed or sickly.

2.   You must drink.  Drink water not alcohol, it eases the tension away.  Better yet drink watermelon juice or young coconut juice they’re so high in alkaline properties.  Cantaloupe juice or shake is also great.  Try cranberry juice it’s refreshing and good for the urinary tract, you can buy it in most groceries under the brand name: ‘ocean spray’. 

3.   You must exercise.

4.   Go out and have good laugh. Go dine or watch a movie with someone special or with friends; as much as possible don’t stay home alone or do activities alone.

5.   Avoid too much smoking. Never result to illegal Drugs. Take a lot of natural antioxidant vitamins.

6.   As much as possible discuss only your problems or heartbreaks with a few confidante or trusted friends.

7.   Have a real good hug or a cry-on-my-shoulder thing, either with your lover, friend, family members especially with your wife or husband, or kids.  It feels great that you have someone.

8.   Keep busy focus on your job or studies or enroll to a hobby course, e.g. culinary arts or computer courses, inquire some of the courses at AIE it’s a great start.

9.   Have a pet, preferably a dog.

10.   Pray. Cast all your cares unto God and God will take care of all the tensions and anxieties and hurts of your heart.

 

 

 

1. At least 5 people in this world love you so much they would die for you.

2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.

3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.

4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.

5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.

6. You mean the world to someone.

7. If not for you, someone may not be living.

8. You are special and unique.

9. Someone that you don’t even know exists loves you.

10. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.

11. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look: you most likely turned your back on the world.

12. When you think you have no chance of getting what you want, you probably won’t get it, but if you believe in yourself, probably, sooner or later, you will get it.

13. Always remember the compliments you received. Forget about the rude remarks.

14. Always tell someone how you feel about them; you will feel much better when they know.

15. If you have a great friend, take the time to let them know that they are great.

A Minute: They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.

Take the time… to live and love.